Why Do I Choke When It’s Crunch-Time?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

I seem to be programmed with a lot of negative faith. Many times in my life, when I was very qualified to do something and people were rooting for me, I’d choke at the last minute. It didn’t matter if it was scoring a goal or auditioning. I’d rehearse and really know all my lines or be good at the sport I was playing. Yet when it came to crunch time, I would totally choke over and over again.

It made me feel so destroyed and broken down—because I knew what I was doing, yet I would totally cave emotionally. How do I develop a more positive faith?

I don’t know that it’s an issue of having a negative faith. Usually, when we talk about negative faith, we’re thinking about fear or an expectation of something consistently going wrong.

When you’re giving too much energy to the outcome of something, that’s called hyper attention. You’re too attached to that outcome from the negative perspective of not wanting it to go wrong. Most people actually have an issue with that.

This is where the idea of “Let go and let God” comes in. You prepare, you do your best—then you let it go and just step into letting it happen.

It’s not about controlling every aspect of what happens. You have to turn it over to your higher consciousness and allow it to operate in that situation. That’s all you have to do.

You can tell yourself, “I’ve prepared as best as I can. I truly did my best in preparing or practicing. And now I’m turning it over to God or the universe.”

When you’re scared to death that you’re not going to get the outcome you’re looking for, you over-prepare or hyper prepare. That causes fear, doubt, and anxiety to invade your mind, which has a negative effect on your ability to perform.

Although it looks positive, it’s actually coming from fear. It’s coming from insecurity. You end up getting the thing you’re attached to the most, which is the insecurity.

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