Why “How?” is the Wrong Question to Ask

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

When you talk about “turning your yearly income into a monthly income,” my mind automatically wants to say, “Yeah right. How? Show me the way. Tell me exactly what you did and I’ll repeat the steps.” I’ve heard you say that asking “How?” is automatically asking the wrong question—and that we should be thinking in a different direction. Do I need to look at this from another angle instead of asking “How”?

Neagle Code Answer

It’s a decision. That’s all it is—a decision that you will.

Asking “how” before you’ve made the decision is a way to control. If you set a goal, or you hear me inspire you to do something really cool, and you go, “Yeah, sure, show me how”—that’s a way to control.

That question is coming from a place of not believing it’s possible to begin with. So you won’t do what you actually have to do to hit the goal.

The idea is, if you’re inspired to do something, you would say:

“I’m going to do it. I’m making a decision to do it. I don’t need to know how—I just need to make the decision that I’m going to do it.” Then set a date by which you’ll complete that thing.

In that moment, everything you need to do begins to show up, because you’ve done something that is your greatest power—making a decision. That gets you in line with the universe, and looking for the things you need to do next to hit the goal.

Many people will make the decision, but then go backwards and “un-decide”… because something shows up that makes them waiver. That’s why they go back and forth. They haven’t really made the decision.

You can’t un-decide.

It all goes back to the question, “Are you willing?” It’s a huge question, because you don’t know what you’re saying yes to. You might have to do things you’re uncomfortable with. Until you make the decision, you don’t know what’s blocking you from your success.

It becomes apparent as you start to go down that journey. Then it becomes a question of, “Am I willing to sacrifice something of a lower nature to gain something of a higher nature?”

You’ll hit a point where the biggest thing you’re attached to shows up. It’s usually the thing that makes or breaks people. They’re either willing to let go of the thing they’re attached to the most that’s keeping them stuck—or they’re NOT willing to.

This is where you’ll see a person instantly turn into a victim or start blaming.

Whatever shows up for them really is the crux of what they’re going to have to accept in order to step into their greatness.

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