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How to use failure to succeed in life and business

September 19, 2015

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

David,

How do you learn to trust yourself again after “failures” when your sub-conscious very strongly keeps reminding you of those failures and constructs new ways of keeping you stuck?

Fantastic question!

Failure is simply a judgment placed on a result.

The real problem lies with how we THINK and FEEL about failure.

If you fail and attach emotional meaning to that failure, it will trigger a core belief about yourself.

You may even say things to yourself like:

“I’m not smart enough, I’m never going to succeed, I can’t believe this isn’t working, what’s wrong with me?”

“My parents were right…”

Or even

“ I don’t even know why I bother…”

This is how the downward spiral starts.

The truth is that failure is nothing more than a result.

And the purpose of that result is for our own learning. Begin to see failure as a GIFT.

Ask yourself:

What don’t I understand about this?

Who do I need to be to get a different result?

The most successful people in the world have experienced more failure than success.

After all, your own success lies in the ability to respond to results… to course correct and take risks in order to get different results without attaching emotions.

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

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Why vulnerability can lead to a breakthrough

September 12, 2015

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Roger.

Hi David,

In some of your recent teachings you talk about uncovering what your areas of resistance are. I’ve been taking a close look at myself, and I notice that I resist being silly and vulnerable. I very much want to be a speaker, and I can see how this resistance is affecting my ability to really step into that. Any advice on how to break through this?

Hi Roger and thanks for your question!

What’s so bad about being silly?

I’m asking you to answer for yourself, because hidden in the answer to that question is the wound you’re trying to protect.

Let me explain.

When you speak from stage, or in any instance where you’re influencing people, you must come from a place of authenticity.

This means allowing yourself to be vulnerable with your audience. Allow them to really see you, because in you showing them that vulnerability is okay, you give them permission to be vulnerable as well.

You make an immediate connection with a prospect and they know you can help them because you were able to do something that they are afraid of.

Are you afraid to be seen as silly because you worry about judgment? Are you concerned about what people think of you?

If so, you’re coming from a place of getting approval and acceptance rather than a place of helping someone else.

My recommendation is for you to begin embracing your silliness. Look at where you can share personal stories and allow yourself to be more vulnerable.

Once you start doing this you’ll realize the impact it has on people, and you will gradually stop being afraid of the judgment.

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

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[5 Simple Steps to Unshakeable Self-Confidence Series] Article #6 ~ Step One: Identify the Thoughts That Keep You Stuck

September 10, 2015

When you were a child, the adults around you either nurtured the self-confidence you were born with — or they tore it down.

Unfortunately, as I’ve said, most people’s natural self-confidence was torn down.

Again, this wasn’t malicious in most cases. Your guardians were trying to keep you safe, and, in the process, taught you to fear.

Luckily, rebuilding your self-confidence is not as difficult as you might imagine. It follows a simple procedure of only a few steps.

I Can’t Because…
The first step to rebuilding your natural self-confidence is to identify the thoughts, stories or beliefs that are running through your subconscious, reinforcing the fear messages you received as a child, and keeping you stuck.

One of the best ways to recognize those thoughts is to find the I can’t because messages that are operative for you.

Let me explain.

Most of us have some variation of this statement running through our minds: “I would like to do this, but I can’t because ____.”

Whatever comes after “because” reveals two things:

1. The circumstances or environment that you are experiencing.

2. And the story that you have about those circumstances or environment.

For instance,

I would like to go to the conference but I can’t because:

…I’m not ready.

…I don’t have the money.

…I’ll just waste the opportunity.

…I’m spending too much time away from my kids as it is.

…I’m not smart enough (or accomplished enough) to play at that level.

Each of those clauses reflect a different limiting belief about why that person can’t go to the conference.

Apply This
Before we go any further, I want you to apply this for yourself. Recognize what I can’t because messages are controlling you.

I would like to ________, but I can’t because _________.

You don’t have to spend a lot of time digging this out. You don’t have to go to a psychiatrist.

Whatever follows “because” tells you exactly why you believe that you can’t do, be or have the thing you want.

Now, chances are you have several I can’t because messages swimming around your subconscious.

So, do the exercise again with a different situation. And then again.

Take this opportunity to ferret out these toxic messages, once and for all.

What to Do Next
You now have a list of 2, 3, 5, 7 harmful messages that you believe. So what do you do now?

First, let me acknowledge that your belief system is your reality and perception of what you’re experiencing. And whatever you’re perceiving is very real to you. I understand that.

The problem is, as long as you’re coming from that kind of thinking, you are allowing the fear messages you learned as a child to undermine your self-confidence, and limit your life.

So Step One is to identify those limiting beliefs, thoughts, or stories that you tell yourself about why you can’t do, be or have what you want.

And Step Two is to replace those thoughts.

I’ll show you how to do that next time.

David Neagle, The Million Dollar Income Acceleration Mentor and author of The Millions Within, teaches entrepreneurs and commission-based sales professionals how to quantum leap their current incomes past the 7-figure income level, often in less than 12 months. As a world-class speaker, sales trainer, and success-mindset mentor to some of the globe’s top CEOs, David also privately mentors big decision-makers in their pursuit of quantum success and peace of mind.

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Where to find the strength to be the real YOU

August 29, 2015

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Randt.

Hi David,

How do you “be” the person you desire to be when your whole life has been filled with judgment, fear and pain? Where do you get the fortitude to step out of your paradigm and re-create yourself?

Thanks for the question!

 The first thing to realize is that everything comes from within you. As children, we are taught to look outward for validation of what the world is like. But the truth is that all experiences come from inside of you.

You get to decide who you want to be and what you want your reality to be. It is not determined by anyone else but you.

But, your reality won’t change until you start making new decisions.

See your current situation as a place to work from. Even if you aren’t currently the person that you need to be to go where you want to go, you can choose to be that person now.

What kind of person has what you want?

What are their characteristics?

Once you have that list, make a decision to start adopting those qualities as your own and be that person all the time.

Your desire to change has to be stronger than the fear you are feeling.

Fear is an illusion; a result of false programming that formed your current reality.

Once you believe more in the Truth than you do your own story, change will be automatic.

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

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[5 Simple Steps to Unshakeable Self-Confidence Series] Article #5 ~ QUIZ: Are You in Control of You

August 27, 2015

Last time, I told you that in order to develop unshakeable self-confidence, you have to be in control of you. You have to be your own authority.

That makes sense, doesn’t it?

If you’re listening to someone else, you’re not listening to yourself.

You’re ceding your own authority, looking outside of yourself for answers; when, in fact, everything you need to know comes from within.

You Know Best
YOU know better than anyone else who you are and what you need.

But until you recognize that truth, and step into your own authority, you will never lead yourself to a place of 100% self-confidence.

And the steps I’m going to show you over the next few weeks to develop that self-confidence won’t have the desired effect.

So before I move on to that first step, I want you to take this simple quiz to determine if you are in control of yourself and, if not, who is:

Quiz

Are You in Control of You?

1. Do you have the desire to do something that you’re not doing?

Yes or No?

If you answered yes, something or someone else is in control of you. It really is as simple as that.

2. When you feel like doing something, do you tend to talk yourself out of it?

Yes or No?

If you answered yes, again, you’re putting someone else’s agenda over yours.

3. If you aren’t in control of yourself, ask yourself, “Who is?”

Is it a parent? Religious leader? Your spouse?

Whose voice is drowning out your own internal voice?

Who is telling you who you are, what you should be doing, where you should be going and how you should be doing it?

Your inner wisdom is right there for you, trying to guide you in all ways, but most people just aren’t listening.

Fortunately, you have a choice.

Make a Decision
You have the power right now to make a decision that from here on, you’re going to be your own authority and let no one else control you but you.

You have the power to start listening to your internal voice and follow its guidance.

You have the power to say, “This is who I am. This is what I want. This is who I want to be in my life. These are the experiences I want to have. This is how much money I want to make. And here are the ways I want to give back to others in my life.”

Because the truth is, you choose who has the power in your life. And you always have.

I say, choose you.

Be in control of you.

Be your own authority, and you will rekindle the self-confidence that is your birthright.

David Neagle, The Million Dollar Income Acceleration Mentor and author of The Millions Within, teaches entrepreneurs and commission-based sales professionals how to quantum leap their current incomes past the 7-figure income level, often in less than 12 months. As a world-class speaker, sales trainer, and success-mindset mentor to some of the globe’s top CEOs, David also privately mentors big decision-makers in their pursuit of quantum success and peace of mind.

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How to strengthen your self-esteem

August 22, 2015

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hey David!

My intention is to have monthly events to make money, do what I love and grow my community. I am flying high at and after my events, on top of the world — until the day after when my negativity comes in. I start thinking that people don't like me anymore; I question whether they'll come back. It gets weird in my head. This is clearly an issue. I have been doing my best to stop it when it happens, breathe and bring in new thoughts. It's almost torture at times. I hate that I do this to myself but also happy that I am conscious of it now. So what I wonder, are there any additional techniques on how to flip the switch on these thoughts and interrupt the pattern — as well as stay in that I’m-great-and-did-a-great-job energy??

   Hi! Thanks for your question and your honesty.

 It’s wonderful that you are conscious of this pattern in your life, but you must do more than breathe and bring in new thoughts… you must build your self-esteem.

You see, the reason you feel on top of the world after your event is because you are feeding off of the energy and appreciation of the audience. Once that acknowledgement and appreciation fade, your wound re-appears.

A person with a fully developed self-esteem would speak from stage because that is what they are meant to do. They wouldn’t care who liked them or appreciated them.

I always tell my audience, that my job is not to be their friend, and I don’t care if they like me or not.

I know that I have a message to speak, and the people who need to hear will, and those that aren’t ready, won’t. Either way, at the end of the day, I feel good about me and the fact that I’ve given my best to help whomever is willing to listen.

For you, I’d suggest taking a deep look at your need for appreciation and acknowledgement.

Why do you need this from the audience?

Why do you need them to like you, when whether or not they like you is actually none of your business.

Once you begin to take steps to build your self-esteem you’ll find yourself becoming less worried about what others think, and more powerful from stage.

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

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How to manage time to grow your business

August 15, 2015

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

My biggest struggle right now is time management. I need at least an extra 4-5 hours in each of my days. I want to spend time on money-making tasks, but there’s just so much to do. How can I manage my time better to grow my business?

  Hi, and thanks for the fantastic question!

 This is an issue I’ve addressed in a previous post, so I’m going to pull it forward and share it again!

I learned a long time ago that we can’t manage time…we must manage activities.

You see, work will always fill the time you allot for it. This is why one of the first things I teach my VIP Clients is the fine art of calendaring.

Let me explain… as entrepreneurs, there are so many things that can bombard us on a daily basis. Whether it’s making sales calls, handling client satisfaction, fulfilling orders or programs, marketing planning or dealing with our personal lives, there is ALWAYS something to fill our time.

One of the key strategies to ensuring money-making activities get done is to schedule those activities every day, and STICK TO YOUR SCHEDULE.

Start with calendaring the “non-negotiable” items first. These items can be up-coming travel, presentations, and other activities that are firm.

Next schedule all your money-making activities. These should include sales calls, strategy and launches.

From there schedule everything else.

In doing this you may even come to see that you actually have more time than you need or you may see opportunities to hire people to help you with the things you do not specifically need to be doing.

Once you have your schedule in place, you must discipline yourself to stick to it!

Sometimes this is the most difficult step, and if you find yourself straying from your calendar, take a moment to re-align yourself and course correct.

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

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[5 Simple Steps to Unshakeable Self-Confidence Series] Article #4 ~ You Have to be in Control of You

August 13, 2015

Too often, our beliefs, values, and the amount of our self-confidence are determined and controlled by people who were of great importance in our past.

That could be our mom, dad, clergy, teacher, aunt, uncle, grandparent; the list goes on and on.

In fact, most of us are trained from the time we’re very young to listen to and obey our elders, the people, who, supposedly, know best.

Very few of us are taught to listen to our own voice, especially when it conflicts with someone who assumes to be in charge of our well-being.

As a result, most people never step into their own authority.

They never test their mettle. They never see the amazing things they’re actually capable of doing.

Father Doesn’t Know Best
Well, the truth is, despite that 50’s sitcom title, father doesn’t know best.

YOU know best.

And you have the ability to do virtually anything that you can wrap your mind around.

However, in order to do so, you have to be in control of you, and not allow the ancient voices of your past—or those of your present—to control you.

What Does It Mean to Be in Control of Me?
It’s so rare for people be in control of their own lives that sometimes they don’t know what that even means.

Being in control of you means being your own authority.

It means that you’re not going to do something because somebody else likes it or doesn’t like it.

It means that the opportunities you accept, the choices you make, are based on what you want for your life. Period.

How Do You Know When Something Is Right for You or Not?
If you want to know if an opportunity would be good for you, just listen to what your internal voice has to say about it.

It will tell you who you are, what you should be doing, where you should be going, and how you should be doing it.

Now, your inner voice may not express itself as the classic, still, small voice that you can hear. It might be a sensation like chills or a knowing or something else.

If you’re not in the habit of listening to yourself, you might find it a challenge in the beginning to recognize your internal voice.

One thing’s for sure, it is not the nattering or hectoring voice in your head. It speaks simply, often in a short sentence or phrase, and usually arises from the gut.

Fortunately, the more you try to listen to your inner voice, the more you will hear it, and the easier it will be to hear.

Likewise, the more you trust its counsel and heed it, the less time you’ll spend making decisions. Because you’ll quickly check in with yourself and you’ll know.

You’ll know, right away, when something is advantageous for you or not.

And the positive impact of that on your business, life, and self-confidence will be phenomenal!

David Neagle, The Million Dollar Income Acceleration Mentor and author of The Millions Within, teaches entrepreneurs and commission-based sales professionals how to quantum leap their current incomes past the 7-figure income level, often in less than 12 months. As a world-class speaker, sales trainer, and success-mindset mentor to some of the globe’s top CEOs, David also privately mentors big decision-makers in their pursuit of quantum success and peace of mind.

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Can I trust my team members?

August 8, 2015

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Isaiah.

Hi David,

I know that to grow my business I need to develop a team. I’ve never hired anyone before, and I’m really worried about trusting people with a business I’ve worked so hard to build. How much do I trust a team?

 Hi Isaiah, and thanks for the question.

 The concept of trust is interesting, and the more I speak to entrepreneurs, the more I see how their lack of understanding of trust leads to sabotage.

It’s one of the reasons I’ll be teaching on this topic in my new Live and Let Live Virtual Training. Trust is a huge issue because it’s not actually taught to the majority of us…especially those of us who grew up in the Middle Class.

You see, trust MUST be earned.

To trust blindly in others is sheer ignorance.

Let me explain.

When you are building a team, you have to assume the role of leader.

A good leader interviews and screens potential hires carefully and strategically.

References are always checked.

After the hire is made, the leader gives the new team member opportunities to earn the leader’s trust until they have proven to be trustworthy.

This is your business, it’s your responsibility, and I see so many entrepreneurs hand over the keys to their business to people who have not demonstrated that they can be trusted.

Do your part to make sure the team members you are bringing into your business are a good fit, and be willing to give them opportunities to showcase their gifts and earn your trust at the same time.

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

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How to use fear to grow

August 1, 2015

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

Due to my study, I now realize that every time I grow, fear, worry and doubt will show up in some way to try to get me to stop. Now that I recognize this, how can I ignore it or push past it to keep moving forward?

You are absolutely correct that fear, worry and doubt will surface, especially once you’ve made a decision to do something new.

Rather than try to act as if those feelings aren’t there, recognize them and choose to move forward anyway. The only way to move beyond your old programming is to give yourself a new experience and that means moving through your fears.

The fear, doubt and worry surface in different ways for each person, depending on your own programming.

It will cause people, circumstances and events in your life to come forth in an effort to get you to stop and go backward.

That’s what I call the Terror Barrier.

If you can see those obstacles are only illusions that are there to show you where you need to grow to get to your next level, you can look at them from a place of power and decide how you will conquer them.

Welcome the fear, doubt and worry and use them as guides to where you need to grow.

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

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