How Can I Get My Spouse on Board?
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
My wife is a working professional and is paid very well. Sheโs fulfilled with her work, and her income is high, but sheโs not an entrepreneur. Sheโs not tuned into the hustles and struggles of owning your own business.
Many of the things I need to work onโlike mindset issuesโcome more naturally to her. Sometimes Iโll say, โHey, letโs go to a David Neagle live event,โ and she wonโt be as into it as I am. But sometimes sheโs curious about what Iโm learning.
Sometimes she sees me doing this mindset work and sheโs like, โWhy do you need to do that?โ How can I get her and I on the same wavelength, so that we can pursue some non-economic, non-financial ways to grow?
The first thing Iโd ask her is, โWhy are you asking me this question? What are you actually looking for?โ
Because it sounds like sheโs looking for something, and youโre answering her question in a way where sheโs not satisfied.
So I would find out what sheโs looking for, and what the reason is behind her question.
Iโd say, โThatโs a great question. And I honor and respect your question. But why are you asking me this? What information are you looking for?โ
Letโs find out what she wants to know.
Because if you answer the wrong question, she wonโt be satisfied.
Obviously, thereโs a disconnect somewhere. And we need to figure what it is first.
Iโd also say to her:
โI know you donโt have as much interest in this area as I do. But it would really mean a lot to me if youโd come to this event with me, because itโs something Iโm interested in. And Iโd love for us to work together on our relationship.โ
โโฆAND Iโll totally respect you if we get there and you decide itโs not for you. But it would really mean a lot to me if youโd come see whatโs really interesting me, so that we can create dialogue between the two of us.โ
I would approach it from that angle.
Sometimes the spouse just isnโt into it.
And thatโs totally fine, as long as both people are working to grow their relationship together.
The worst thing you can do is to make her wrong for her lack of interest.
Hereโs another thingโฆA person has to fully embrace the teacher.
She might be curious about the material Iโm teaching, but I might not be the right teacher for her.
She might be interested in the content, but maybe she needs to find somebody she vibes with better. Thatโs always a possibility too.
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