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Cheaters cheat for only one reason

September 1, 2012

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

Dear David,
A year ago I decided that I wanted all lies out of my life and within 3 days of making this decision, my life had literally shattered into a million pieces after I found out that my husband of 23 years was having an affair. We separated days later and although I am glad that I found out the truth, I have also been left with the job of picking up the pieces of my life alone, with no help. I understand that as you say, I am the center of my own universe, and I am the one that created that relationship, and I am happy to take responsibility. I am studying the laws and trying to pull my life together by working with the laws but my question to you is – when I eventually meet another man how will I know if can him trust him. How can I use the laws to ensure that I don't waste any more of my life on unsuitable people?

Answer:

Hi, and thanks for your question.

The Law states that we attract what we are, not what we want.

So to use the Laws to ensure that you don't waste any more of your life on unsuitable people, you must get very clear with yourself as to why you would have attracted your husband and his subsequent actions.

If everyone in our life is a mirror for us, and no one is a victim, then we must take responsibility for everything in our lives and see the lessons as they are.

Cheaters cheat for only one reason.

They don't have the courage to say what they want.

Is this also something you struggle with?

Do you have difficulty saying what you want, even if it means the loss of a relationship or judgment from those around you? Is there something you were lying to yourself about?

Once you have clarity around why you attracted the affair into your life, you must go to work on getting very clear about the person you'd like to meet.

You see, we are not taught how to attract a partner. Most relationships start with a physical attraction, and we fall in love, and most times, we fall in love with the wrong person.

To really make sure that you're attracting an ideal relationship you must write out what qualities and values you're looking for, and then you yourself must live those qualities and values.

Use that list as the authority in deciding if a relationship stays or goes, and it will help you find a relationship that will bring more life to you both.

“Just Believe”,®

PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

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[Goal Setting Series]Article #2 ~ Go Beyond What You Know

August 30, 2012

In my last article, I introduced my new series on how to set goals that utilize the power of the Universe, and I showed you how to remove time from the equation.

Today, I'm urging you to use your most powerful tool when creating goals: your imagination.

Fantasy Matters

When most people sit down to set goals, they evaluate their present results, decide what needs to change, and then ask themselves what they think they can achieve.

They never consider using fantasy or their imagination.

That's a great loss, because when you fantasize you're actually altering the frequency of your brain to make it more receptive to expansive ideas in the Universe you might never have considered.

In fact, one of the primary functions of the human brain is to engage in fantasy and use the imagination to draw ideas, desire and purpose from the soul.

It's the best way to discover what you really want.

Yet, most of us rarely use this divine gift because it was shut down when we were young.

How the Divine Gift Was Stolen

If you leave small children alone, they will engage their imagination automatically. In their own world, kids can do and be whatever they want.

At most schools, however, they're taught conformity. Fantasy and the imagination are slowly, sometimes severely, whacked out of them.

Children are scolded for day dreaming, not paying attention. Over time, they learn that fantasizing is not okay.

When it's time to start making critical decisions for the direction of their life, young adults are in trouble, because they have little connection to their inner world.

They have no idea what their purpose is. They're unable to understand the desire inside of them. They have little idea who they are.

Unable to fully think for themselves, they ask, “What does my guidance counselor or parents or spouse think I should do? What does the economy indicate? What do people tell me I'm good at?”

Their decisions and goals are made based on what they currently know, what others tell them and what they think they can do.

If you make your goals from that place, you're already off course.

You get a year or two down the road, and you're miserable, so you sit down and make another plan, considering your present results and what you think you can do.

That cycle can repeat for a lifetime, without your ever truly understanding what's missing.

Go Beyond

What's missing is you ~ what you desire and broader guidance from your soul.

Listen, there is no limit to your potential.

I'll lead you through this next time, but if you use fantasy and your imagination to create your goals, you'll remove human barriers that prevent you from having a life you truly desire.

You'll utilize the full power of the Universe and create absolutely wonderful and astounding things.

© Copyright 2012 – David Neagle's Life Is Now Inc., All Rights Reserved Worldwide.

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David Neagle, The Million Dollar Income Acceleration Mentor and author of The Millions Within, teaches entrepreneurs and commission-based sales professionals how to quantum leap their current incomes past the 7-figure income level, often in less than 12 months. As a world-class speaker, sales trainer, and success-mindset mentor to some of the globe's top CEOs, David also privately mentors big decision-makers in their pursuit of quantum success and peace of mind.

 

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My friends are penny pinching & proud! Do I keep quiet?

August 25, 2012

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

I was visiting with some dear friends who are very much in the Lack mentality. For instance my friend prides herself on how she only buys her clothes at Salvation Army because it saves her so much money or constantly is telling me how much she paid for something. I find myself either biting my tongue to share my new insights with her or judging her or thirdly slipping back into the same thought patterns. She is a dear friend and I don't get to see her often but how do you respond to people who are on a different path than you. Is it best just to keep quiet?

Answer:

Thanks for the great question!

I know first hand that this is a question that many people struggle with.

The first rule of thumb is that you should always surround yourself with people who are of like mind and goals. There is some truth to the old saying; “You are a product of the 5 closest people in your life”.

The second thing I'd like to point out is that if you're not verbally disagreeing with your friend, her lack beliefs are seeping into your subconscious.

Have you ever spent time with them, and then suddenly found yourself slipping back into lack thoughts and decisions, not even realizing it until you caught yourself days later?

And the third point here is that your friends aren't asking you to help them change, therefore, it's not your place to “set them straight”. They have the right to believe whatever they want, and if it bothers you, it's your responsibility to make the choice to accept them, or to limit your time with them.

Usually when I get this question, I ask, “How is the relationship serving you“, and I think it's something you may want to take a look at.

You've probably heard the saying, “A relationship is for a reason, season or a lifetime.”

It may be time for you to spend less time with these dear friends, and focus on making new friendships that support your ideals and growth.

“Just Believe”,®

PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

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Hire slow but fire fast!

August 18, 2012

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

How do I find the right employees to fit my culture, growth, and technical expertise needed with a limited highly skilled/specialized labor pool?

Answer:

Thanks for the great question!

When doing ANY hiring, you always need to first start with yourself.

Are you the right person to do the hiring? Be honest.

Do you have a poor track record of turn over within your business?

Businesses lose money every time they have to fire and hire, so at times, it's often less time consuming and more cost effective to turn to a professional to assist you in hiring.

They are skilled at not only knowing what questions to ask you to make sure you attract qualified people, but also what questions to ask the potential employee.

An outside service can be more objective and know how to “read between the lines” in an interview so that only qualified people who will match your culture make the cut.

If you feel like you are the person to do the hiring, sit down and make a list of all the qualities and skills you're looking for in the “right” person.

Be specific. When hiring you want to be able to clearly explain both “duties” and expectations.

My friend Tony Hsieh of Zappos.com always encourages people to hire slow and fire fast.

I couldn't agree more.

If you find that you are still having difficulty finding the right position to fill a role in the company, you may need to take a long hard look at why you are attracting the situation.

Are you keeping yourself the bottle neck in your company so as to stay hidden or not have to take risks to grow?

Do you have issues with trusting someone else to do a job that you know you can do well?

Remember, everything starts with you, so the more clear and honest you can be with yourself and others, the easier that position will be to fill.

“Just Believe”,®

PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

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[Goal Setting Series]Article #1 ~ You Can Have It Now

August 9, 2012

Time is a perception that human beings create. The Universe doesn't recognize it.

Time doesn't really exist, but we are subject to it because of our belief in it.

For example, you age because a genetic program says the human body should do so, but if you removed that program, your body would not age.

The fact that we're not yet at that stage of awareness is irrelevant. People change their genetic nature all the time by changing their belief systems.

Just think of the examples you've heard of people with Stage 4 cancer, who “shouldn't” have survived, yet they did. A person's belief system, optimism and faith can turn terminal illnesses around.

If we can do it with cancer, we can do it for anything.

You Can Have It Now

The Universe is saying, “You can have it now.”

You can have what you want now because you have the desire for it now.

Like Holliwell said, “No desire is recognized within the human without the way for the physical manifestation to take place.” Time is not part of the manifesting equation.

But when you make a goal and give it a deadline, you automatically factor in time.

You say, “I can have it in six months or a year.”

Then what happens? You bring in the problems and the complications that make it take at least that long.

It doesn't have to be that way.

Three Steps for Factoring Out Time

If you want to achieve your dream according to the Universe's rules, rather than your own, embrace these three steps:

1. Accept that your dream is achievable.

Once you have your idea, it is possible to attain, because the idea now exists in the Universe. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation can bring it into form.

2. Let the Universe set the timeline.

You may not know how your goal is going to happen or how it can happen quickly, but that doesn't mean the Universe doesn't know.

Your job is to have the idea, follow the inspirations that arise from that idea, heed the suggestions I'll share over the next several weeks, and let the Universe arrange the details.

3. Be aware that you're instantly manifesting 24 hours a day.

You're manifesting every positive and negative thing you're experiencing.

What you experience in your outer world is a projection of who you are in your inner world.

While your goal may seem bigger and more difficult to achieve than the things and people in your daily life, it's not.

To the Universe, it's exactly the same.

And if you can let the Universe set the time frame, you really can achieve your goal sooner, with much less effort and fewer setbacks.

You can have what you want, and you can have it now.

© Copyright 2012 – David Neagle's Life Is Now Inc., All Rights Reserved Worldwide.

WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR EZINE, BLOG OR SITE? You may, as long as you commit to leaving all of the links active, do not edit the article in any way, and include the following byline:

David Neagle, The Million Dollar Income Acceleration Mentor and author of The Millions Within, teaches entrepreneurs and commission-based sales professionals how to quantum leap their current incomes past the 7-figure income level, often in less than 12 months. As a world-class speaker, sales trainer, and success-mindset mentor to some of the globe's top CEOs, David also privately mentors big decision-makers in their pursuit of quantum success and peace of mind.

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The biggest lie about list-building

August 4, 2012

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Victoria Buckman.  You can find her on the web at ProgrammedForWealth.com. 

Question:

I am building my 1:1 coaching business and want to reach more women. What is the best way to grow my list quickly?

Answer:

Great question.

First I want to make sure you understand that growing your list quickly is not always the smartest way to build your coaching business.

You really want to grow your list with qualified people who are really interested in what you do.

There are many ways out there currently that promise to build your list quickly, but building a smaller more qualified list is the secret to increasing your income.

It's the difference between building a house out of straw versus building a house of brick.

Quality is the key.

It's always better to have a smaller list of people who are engaged and buying, then a large list of people who rarely open your newsletter.

All that being said, the single most effective way to build a quality list right now is to GET OUT!

Get out of your house, get out from behind your computer and talk to people.

Sponsor events, attend events, speak, create your own workshops or events no matter how small, and start getting your name out there.

Talk to people at the grocery store, gas station and mall. Shake their hand and look them in the eye.

Think of places your target market would frequent and put yourself there.

The more people you meet face to face, the more impact you'll have.

And when those people receive your newsletter, they will read it, because they know you.

You've already had a personal impact on them, and they'll WANT to know what you're offering next!

“Just Believe”,®

PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

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Solid as a rock

July 28, 2012

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Question:

How do you get to frame your mind to be solid like a rock?

Answer:

Hi and thanks for the question!

There are two key factors in creating a rock solid mindset.

One is understanding, and the other is experience.

Allow me to explain.

I am an avid student. One of the really great things my mentor taught me a long time ago was how to study, and to this day I never travel anywhere without my books.

I'm constantly holding my thoughts up to the light of the truth that is found in those books.

In this way, I can consciously understand what's happening around me.

This is step one of a solid mindset. Study.

The second step is to give yourself a different experience, because you see, deep in your subconscious.experience creates understanding

If you don't give your self a different experience, your new understanding doesn't become part of who you are being.

Let me give you an example.

Sue is reading about abundance, and she learns that her environment is incredibly important in manifesting her desires. She consciously understands the concepts, and it makes complete sense to her.

She looks around her office and notices that she really needs some organizers and that flowers would really make a difference.

The next time she's at the store, she sees the most beautiful bouquet of flowers and it stops her.

She really wants the flowers, but doesn't like the price tag, and even though she feels different energetically around the flowers, she decides to pass them by because she believes they are too expensive.

Sue has a conscious understanding of the Laws, but she's not putting those laws into practice, therefore her understanding has not become part of who she is being, and her mindset is not rock solid.

She desperately wants an abundant life, and yet, she makes her decisions based in lack.

Have faith in the Laws and put them into practice in every area of your life.

It's the only way to create a rock solid mindset.

“Just Believe”,®

PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

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How do I know my resistance isn’t a good thing?

July 21, 2012

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Sherry Rothwell.  You can find her on the web at http://www.DomesticDiva.ca.

Question:

I really enjoyed your answer in your blog post “Are You A Puppet”.
It leaves me with the question: How do you know the difference between when resistance is because something isn't right for you vs. resistance because you REALLY need to do it to take yourself to the next level?

Thanks so much David- you are lovely and I really appreciate your work!

Answer:

What a fantastic question, Sherry!

I think it would help if we used a specific example here, and because so many entrepreneurs resist sales, let's use that as the example.

First things first. When you decide to do anything in your business it is important to ask the question,

“Is this taking me closer to my goal, or further away?”

We know that the lifeblood of any business is really sales. If you don't have sales you don't have a business.

Making sales calls WILL bring you closer to your goal, if your goal is to build your business.

Yet many people will tell me that they are not sales people; that it's just not in their personality.

And it's a big lie. They are resisting doing the thing that will grow their business because of fear.

The crazy thing is that many people won't even try. To really understand if something is not for you, you have to do it long enough to determine if it's not for you.

Herein lies the difference between knowing if something is not right for you or if you're resisting something.

I'm sure you've all heard the phrase, “You won't know if you like it until you try it.” There's a lot of truth to that statement.

If you're wondering if you're resisting something, get very honest with yourself. Determine if doing it will bring you closer to your goal, and if it will, DO IT!

“Just Believe”,®

PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

 

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Are your business & personal lives one in the same?

July 14, 2012

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Nicole Newsom.  You can find her on the web at http://spiritsensellc.com/.

Question:

Hi David,
As a small business owner, everything is about running and keeping my business afloat. I have not had time for a personal life. When I get with people in my line of business, two things happen 1-they want me to mentor them for free; or 2-they want to sell me their services when all I want is a friend.
How can you separate your business and personal life when they are one in the same?

Answer:

Thank you for the question!

Nicole, the problems you are describing in your question are nothing more than boundary problems.

The fact that you see your business life and personal life as one is a key indicator that you have not set proper boundaries for your life and in your relationships.

Your business life should be your business life, and your personal life should be your personal life.

Here are some suggestions on how to set proper boundaries.

1) Have a set start and end time to your day. Do not let your work invade your personal time. Work will always fill the time you allot it, so you may find that you are much more efficient when you have a limited time to work on your business.

2) Get involved in something outside your business. If you like to sail, join a sailing club. If you like to read, join a book club. If you like to hike, join a hiking club. This will expose you to people who know nothing about your business, but still share the same interests that you do. They won't want anything from you except your thoughts on your favorite boat, book, or hiking trail.

3) Schedule time with your current friends and gently let them know that you're not open to a conversation about your business, and you don't feel you can be their coach and their friend at the same time. You'd much rather be their friend. If you're worried about what you'll talk about, think about purchasing a small box of conversation starters. They are great to spark new and interesting conversation.

4) Do some journaling about who you are outside of your business. You need to begin to realize that your business is not your identity.

Keep in mind that as you do this, you may feel a small bit of anxiety. It's perfect normal as you begin to redefine who you are and what life you most want to live.

“Just Believe”,®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

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When the biggest LIAR in your life is you…

July 7, 2012

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Margaret Foster.  You can find her on the web at http://www.margaretafoster.co.uk/.

Question:

Hi David,

I qualified as a life coach and NLP Practitioner over 3 years ago. The plan was to work in an office during the day and build my business during the evenings. However, I've only coached a handful of people and they were free sessions. I often help people out at work with their problems, but they never want to sign up for anything.
If I'm honest I'm scared to sell my services. Many people I've spoken to don't even know what coaching is and when I've explained, I get a lot of negative feedback.
I'm totally stuck and keep thinking that maybe I should just give up but something won't let me for some reason.
So my question is – should I give it up as a bad job? Maybe the Universe is trying to tell me something!

Thank you!

Answer:

You are absolutely right, Margaret. The Universe is most definitely trying to tell you something.

Here's the secret to finding out exactly what it's trying to tell you:

1)     Spirit never speaks to you through fear.

2)     The desire you feel is GIVEN to you by Spirit.

So if you are feeling fear around selling your services, you can immediately know that the fear you are experiencing is coming from your ego. And if it's coming from your ego, you know it's a LIE designed to stop you.

And when you are feeling the desire to grow your business and help others, you can immediately know that the desire you are experiencing is coming from Spirit. And if it's coming from Spirit, you know it's the TRUTH.

So, whom are you going to choose to listen to?

I hope you listen to that Spirit-given desire within you and begin to really take a look at why you have fear around selling your services.

You must realize that the fear is the only thing keeping you from your desire and step through it.

“Just Believe”,®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

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