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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

I have my own business. After years of struggling, I’ve been able to live off my work, but never in a sustainable, recurrent way. I’m burned out. This year has been terrible. I feel like not doing anything anymore, and I’m lost. I have an email list, but they’re not very responsive.

I’m in a position where I need to bring in money… and I’m stuck. My mind keeps thinking, “How do I bring in money?” I get paralyzed in analysis.

What can I do, or launch, to turn this around?

The best thing you can do… is to do the thing that touches your heart the most.

Don’t think about the money. Don’t think about the fear. Instead, do the thing that brings you the most joy.

Doing the thing that brings you joy will bring the highest level of service to other people. AND it will bring you money.

…But nothing will happen if you just sit there in your fear all day.

It’s time to get serious. It’s time to say to yourself, “Listen, I’m not going to tolerate this fear running my life anymore. I’m better than this. I can make a difference in people’s lives.”

You have to make a difference in your own life first. THEN you can make a difference in other people’s lives.

…But you owe it to yourself to do what makes you happy.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David! Here’s my question… 

I feel like I’m being pulled in a hundred different directions. I’m a mom, a business owner with employees, a wife, a daughter, a neighbor, a church member, and I’m starting to feel like I’m losing touch with who I am outside of those roles. I wake up and go through the motions, making sure everyone is taken care of, but at the end of the day, I honestly feel sucked dry.

It’s beginning to scare me because it’s getting harder and harder to see where my business needs to go, and I’m actually starting to resent it. I’ve lost the spark I once had. How do I get that back, and still be the best version of myself?

Thanks for the great questions!

I think a lot of us are really raised with the idea that putting ourselves first is not really a good thing. And while I understand that sometimes putting everyone else before yourself can be a kind or generous thing, the hard truth of the matter is that if we don't put ourselves first in our mind as far as our own health, our own well-being, our own growth, then anything that we actually bring to the table for other people is kind of half-hearted and only at half-capacity.

One of the things that I like to teach people is put yourself first in your own life.

I know some of you might be thinking, “Well, that sounds kind of selfish David.” So let me explain…

When you put yourself first, you actually become the center of your life, not from an egotistical perspective, but from the perspective of:

1. you have a specific purpose for being here,
2. it's your responsibility to develop that purpose so that you can not only be a benefit to yourself, but you can be a benefit to other people, and
3. that you have the ability to take care of your own needs so that you can help other people with their needs.

So let me ask you…

What are you doing that you really DON’T want to be doing?

If you look at all the roles you listed in your question and you make a list under each one of all the things you do, that you actually don’t want to do, how long would that list be?

And the next question for you is:

WHY are you doing these things? What are the excuses you tell yourself to keep yourself from living the life you REALLY want to live?

Are you:

• Afraid to rock the boat?
• Worried people will think you’re a bad person?
• Concerned you’ll be perceived as greedy, selfish or lazy?
• Controlled by guilt or shame?

The truth is that you’re holding yourself in this place because of a deep inner conflict…and you’re right, it’s sucking you dry.

Here’s how I can help you further with this…on Tuesday at 1pm ET, I’m hosting a FREE training that I’ve titled: How To Live Life on Your Own Terms. Join me, and I’ll share with you a process to help you start to turn this situation around and fall back in love with your life. CLICK HERE for all the details.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

I recently had a car wreck. My vehicle was totaled, and I’ve been in serious pain.

Although I’m better now… I’ve had a crappy attitude because I’m in chronic pain.

How do I get my business jump-started, despite my poor attitude? I can’t afford coaching or things like that, because I had to replace my car. Can you offer any advice?

Great question. And I’m sorry you’ve had that trouble.

Here’s the thing… you had a setback in your life. We all have setbacks. And yours is starting to affect your thinking.

It can be very difficult and challenging to keep your attitude in a good place when you’re in pain.

I’m no stranger to pain. After I broke my back years ago when I got sucked through a dam, I was in pain for 30 years. (I’m just now figuring out how to get out of that.)

If I were you, I would find something about this setback to be deeply and profoundly grateful for.

This situation is asking you to pay attention to something. You have to figure out what that is, because it will totally change your life.

Moving forward, the mindset you have is your choice. You get to choose that, and nobody can take that away from you.

After you’ve expressed gratitude… ask yourself, “Why am I working? What do I really want to achieve? What do I want my life to be about?”

Really get a bigger vision for yourself. I think that’s important.

If we don’t have a vision for our life, then we don’t have much of anything… because we’re just showing up, being reactive to everything. Then it’s about survival. It’s about getting through one day to the next. (That can be really important when a person is in so much pain.) You’re just trying to get from one day to the next, because that’s what’s getting your attention the most.

Create a vision for your future. Bring that in close and intimate with yourself. Then create a plan to go after it with everything you’ve got.

The Law of Polarity states that everything has an opposite, and it is equal and opposite. The bigger the setback you have in your life, the bigger the opportunity is for you to move forward. That is an absolute law.

Most people don’t know that. Or they don’t take the time to find out what the opportunity is… because the setback causes so much pain and distress in their life. All they can focus on is how miserable they feel in the moment.

The way to break through this is to become grateful. Find anything to be grateful about.

Ask yourself, “What is the biggest gift in this, that can change my future?”

When the answer shows up, pay attention and move on immediately.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Emily.

I’ve been in business for 4 years, making $100K per year. Recently I got sick and had surgery. It took me several months to get back on my feet. (I don’t think I got sick due to over-working or stress, or anything like that.)

I’ve been living off my savings. I feel better now, and am ready to go back into my business. But it feels like there’s a block or resistance. What I used to do isn’t working anymore.

How can I turn this around?

Thank you for the question!

If your illness wasn’t related to overworking… and if you’re not associating work with your getting sick, then something else is going on.

Here's what you need to do. You need to come up with a new goal for yourself, something that really excites you. Something you really, deeply want.

When a person is not enthusiastic about what they’re doing, all it means is they’ve got the wrong goals set for themselves.

You need a goal that excites you to get out of bed each day and go to work.

Pick a goal. It can be whatever you want. Create a vision board for yourself. Put it in front of you every day, and set different mark points for yourself to reach as you work towards it. Then reward yourself while you’re doing that.

For example, let’s say you give yourself a goal — when you hit $20,000 in income, you’re going to reward yourself with something.

When you hit $40,000, you’re going to reward yourself with something else.

Then when you hit $100K, or whatever number you’re choosing for yourself, you’ll give yourself a big reward.

You can pick whatever numbers or goal points you’d like.

If you pick a financial goal, make sure you associate it with something you really want more than just the money…because there’s nothing worse than working for money alone.

Make sure your goal is something that excites you.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

I work for myself and am an expert in my line of work. I take lots of action…yet I feel SO resentful because I’m not getting the results I want. I have what I call “hunting fatigue.” Things seem to take forever to materialize. I’m really frustrated.

I saw a blog you did about resentment, and that resonated with me.

How can I get over the resentment?

Great question!

Many people struggle with this, so you’re not alone.

Let me ask you:

What is your resentment really about?

Whenever you have a situation you feel resentful about… it’s waking up a dormant sense of resentment that’s already in you.

It’s not causing the resentment — it’s stirring up a feeling that’s already there.

The key is to figure out what you’re truly resentful about. Those other things in your life are just triggering that feeling within you.

If you want to change this, you have to want to let the resentment go.

In your core, be honest with yourself and ask, “Am I ready to let this go?”

If the answer is yes… then don’t ever say you’re resentful again. Let this be the last time you say that.

Don’t allow the feeling to be in your life at all.

The only emotion you should be feeling is gratitude.

Be grateful for everything that shows up in your life.

I don’t care how bad it is — everything that shows up in your life is moving you towards being more of who you really are.

Gratitude is the only appropriate emotion for whatever shows up.

All of our negative emotions were handed down to us by other people. We “learned” these emotions by observing how other people responded to different problems in life.

Most of us didn’t see people responding to problems with gratitude. We saw them respond with resentment. Or anger. Or entitlement. Or in a sad way.

…So WE learned to respond in those ways, too.

Every problem in your life is there to show you:

• another side of yourself
• a better way to move forward
• something you’re doing wrong, so you can correct it

When you recognize this truth… the appropriate response is to have gratitude for each “problem” that shows up.

Decide: “This is the way I’m going to live from this day forward — with gratitude for everything.”

YOU are the common denominator in all the problems in your life. If you’re exhausted, then you’re putting too much stress onto it.

All of us are going to have to get up, take a shower, eat, and do all kinds of things… every day for the rest of our lives.

We can either resist doing those things, or we can accept them.

If we accept them — and if we’re grateful for the opportunity to be alive in a wonderful world — then we move through the world in a completely different way.

We were given this God-like ability to make choices. We can create our life any way that we want.

Don’t spend another second in resentment. Be grateful for everything, and if you don’t like something, change it.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Anna.

I’ve been quite successful recently. My business has grown and grossed more money than ever. I have higher net profits, and a strong vision for my goals and why I’m doing this.

However, I feel like I take a big step forward…then I take a step back. I end up with a “net” forward, but not as much as I’d like.

Why do I self-sabotage after doing really well?

Thanks!
Anna

Hi Anna,

Thanks for the question!

You have what’s called a “financial set point.”

We all have an internal compass that dictates how much money or success we’re allowed to have. It’s set at a certain level (based on our programming), and once we go past that level… it gets stuck.

That’s when you find yourself “taking a step back.”

To break through this, you must first understand what’s actually taking place in your mind.

Let’s say you start making a lot of money — far more than what you were programmed to make.

Your financial set point immediately kicks in.

Once your brain senses that you’re making more money… it runs away from that, because it thinks it’s not safe. (It’s unknown.)

Our mind hits this place where it goes, “You’re OK here. You can back off from whatever you were doing.” And you take your foot off the gas.

It will cause you to “not feel like doing the work today.”

It will cause you to “get depressed.” (Or sick. Or tired.)

It will create some kind of “extenuating circumstance” in your life — anything to knock you off the disciplined routine you have for earning.

Your internal financial “governor” is literally controlling your behavior.

It will bring you right back to wherever your “financial set point” is.

Before you know it, you’ve dropped back down, and it takes all your energy to get it back up. You get exhausted. It drops back even further. We go through this cycle our entire life… without realizing what’s going on.

(That’s why you’ll have one month where you make “the most money you’ve ever made before”… followed by a $0 month or several low months.)

In these moments, ask yourself, “Why I am taking my foot off the gas?”

The way to break through it is to keep going, no matter what.

Keep your eye on your goal.

You have to make an agreement with yourself that you’ll keep going — keep doing the actions needed to bring in the money — so that you can have a breakthrough.

The whole idea is that you never stop. You continually break through and take action to move you forward.

By doing this, you’re reprogramming your mind to believe there’s an abundance.

If you do this, then you’ll break through it forever.

Need some more help around this self-sabotage? Join me THIS TUESDAY for a free training I’m hosting titled: Stop Making Things Hard. I’ll be sharing how you can STOP this pattern and move into a place of ease and grace. CLICK HERE to register.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Andrew P.

David, I believe I have a blind spot around money. I can list off lots of reasons why I think this, but the primary reason is that I have been stuck at a financial ceiling in my business for over 4 years now…and I often catch myself making decisions based in a lack mentality. How can I uncover what this blind spot is? Is it just simply a belief?

Thanks!
Andrew

Hi Andrew,

So here's what I want you to consider first off.

Your problem… your blind spot is probably a generational problem.

I want you to think about something. Somewhere back in your history, in your family lineage, problems started, and those problems literally became belief systems.

Now, I want you to think… if your great-great-great grandparents had experienced some misfortune in their life, and they didn't understand it, and couldn't see a way out of it, what would invariably happen is they would create a belief system around that problem.

That problem, all the circumstances around that problem, all the people around that problem, all the conclusions of that problem would become a belief for them.

It then gets passed down to the next generation that comes along until it finally hits you and your generation, and you have no choice but to accept it as being true.

(Remember, prior to the age of 7 you didn’t have the ability to reject beliefs.)

You’re now in a place where you are asking a different question. You’re ready to take this downward progression of a blind spot that has probably been going on for generations in your family lineage, and actually turn it around for a big win in your life, and that's what I want to show you how to do…but I can’t do it in a single email or blog post so…

I’ve created a 3-part video series that will show you EXACTLY how to identify and break through a blind spot. It’s completely FREE and you can access it HERE.

And congrats to you for being willing to question the deep beliefs that are causing your problem!

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David!

I’ve heard you teach a lot about the power of following your true desire in life. And on the surface it seems VERY simple. But I’m finding that I’m not sure if I’m following a true desire or if I’m following my ego out of fear.

How do I know if I’m making decisions based on my desire or inner guidance?

Thanks so much!!

I love this question! Thanks!

Let me start by stating the truth: we all have an internal guidance system, just like every other form of life on the planet. And you have the ability to grow into the very biggest and best person that you can become.

Most people don’t recognize their internal desire or guidance system because they’ve never been taught to listen to it. They’ve been taught to follow the beliefs and values that were handed down to them prior to the age of 7.

So let me try to make this as simple as possible. 

1) Desire is going to be clear.

It's not going to tell you what not to do. It will only tell you what TO DO. It's going to give you some direction as to what to do, but it won’t give you any more information until you make the decision to do what it's telling you to do. Most people get stuck here…they want to see the “whole plan.” And that’s just not how it works.

2) Desire is going to be persistent.

You will think about it all the time. It will always be rolling around in the back of your mind. The reason that it doesn't go away is because it's part of your purpose or is your purpose. It's part of your life purpose as to who you are, what you're supposed to do and the people that you're supposed to help in this world.

3) You will feel your desire internally.

You most often feel it in your heart and it will feel like you're being pulled towards something.

4) You will not feel fulfilled until you’re on the right path.

Nothing that you will do will fulfill the thirst of your desire other than the thing that it's actually telling you to do. Remember, it doesn't go away because it is your purpose (or part of your purpose).

It's really important to know that because I made the same mistake. I would go off and just do different things and try different things, but it wasn't the thing that my desire was telling me to do, and it never felt fulfilling. Sure, sometimes there was some joy and sometimes there was some fun, but I never, at the end of the day, really felt fulfilled.

The only thing that ever really fulfilled me was when I actually made a decision and stepped into that desire, which had really been guiding me my whole life and I didn't know it.

If you want to learn more about how to recognize your desire or inner guidance, check out an entire podcast episode I dedicated to this question. You can access it here.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

David,

I have a high school friend (someone who is more a sister to me and an aunt to my kids). At first I didn’t notice her “toxic side”, but now as I’m growing, I’m seeing it as clear as day. I know it’s impacting me, and yet, I don’t want to walk away from this person I love.

Isn’t there something I can do to keep her in my life and still protect myself from the toxicity?

Hi, and thanks for the question.

Let me ask you something important…

How much toxicity would you allow in your home?

Would you allow just a little bit of lead paint?

Just a little bit of arsenic?

I think not.

So why would you allow it in to your personal relationships?

The answer:

YOU
ARE
ATTACHED.

Ask yourself: What are you getting from the relationship?

And then see what’s actually going on here.

My advice would be to set her free.

Otherwise you’ll find yourself either trying to change her (which is not your right or responsibility), or you’ll continue to take on her toxic energy and/or beliefs.

It’s possible that this relationship was meant to be for a season rather than a lifetime.

A great resource for you, and I suggest you read it immediately, is a book titled, Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. I think it will shed a lot of light on what you’re experiencing and how it may be showing up in your other relationships as well.

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