This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

I am absolutely overwhelmed with obstacles to my own growth and success. I have absolutely no idea how to build a business model around what I do. My self-esteem is in the toilet, and I'm terrified of other people and their judgments. My car is a complete wreck and I'm so poor. For this reason I isolate myself. I avoid networking events because I'm ashamed someone will see my car. I avoid promoting myself online because I feel that I have nothing of value to say. I avoid dating because I'm embarrassed by my poverty. How can I start with nothing? Who could possibly help me? I mean really me with all of this?

Answer:

Right now, the only person who can help you is YOU.

You have to make a decision. And until you make that decision, NOTHING will change no matter who tries to help you.

Right now your programming, your fear and your ego are controlling your life.

All of the self-doubt, fear of judgment, shame and embarrassment was given to you by other people.

It was not given to you by Spirit.

You need to make a decision as to whether you are going to live your own life or if you are going to be a puppet for someone else.

If you choose to live your own life, you need to immediately begin to do EVERYTHING you are resisting.

You must go to networking events to learn that people don't care what car you drive.

You must promote yourself on-line to learn that you DO have something valuable to say.

You must begin dating to learn that how much money you make does not determine your worth.

You must stop hiding.

So to answer your question, no one can help you with this; you must begin to help yourself by first deciding you want a different life and then beginning to IMMEDIATELY take action to create that different life.

And a word from the wise…the longer you wait to take action, the more the fear will try to control you.

Start NOW!

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Keith Chovan.

Question:

How would people be recognized for not loving themselves, so I can keep those types of people out of my life?

Answer:

Hi Keith and thanks for this very interesting question.

The truth is that we attract to us who we are being.

Start with yourself. If you love yourself, you will attract others who love themselves or who are in the process of learning to love themselves.

You see you are the center of your Universe. You attract people to you who will be a mirror for you.

Let me explain.

If you find that you've attracted a person into your life that has low self-esteem and it triggers you, it means that you have low self-esteem as well. That person is in your life so you can become aware of your next area of growth.

Remember, anything that upsets you about someone else in your life is about you and not them.

If you start with learning to love yourself, you will accept people for who they are without needing anything from them, or you'll easily be able to let relationships go that no longer serve you.

I think Don Miguel Ruiz sums it up pretty well in his book, The Four Agreements, when he says that what people think of you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

The reverse must then also be true. What you think of other people has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you.

If you want to attract people into your life that love themselves, you must love yourself first.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Kim.

Question:

Do you go into debt to finance your company to stretch the reach of your audience and marketing possibilities?

Answer:

Hi Kim and thanks for your question.

This question is the perfect example of my teachings on using debt as a tool.

I truly believe that the best use of debt is in the investment in your own growth, whether it's personal, spiritual or business.

If you talk to any successful business owner you will see that they have used debt to propel their business.

However, there are parameters around using debt to grow your business.

First, before considering taking out a loan, you MUST have a plan. You must have an actionable strategy with clear-cut goals and benchmarks or be investing in a program that's going to give you that clear-cut plan.

Taking out a loan and not having a plan in place that allows for you to pay it back is financially irresponsible and only serves as a Band-Aid.

Second, you must be WILLING do what it takes to get a return on investment. This means you have to take action on your plan, and allow nothing to stop you.

A plan and goals are only as good as the paper it's written on unless you are willing to take action on it.

I see entrepreneurs EVERYDAY who spend money on building their business or getting the information they need to build their business, but they never take the action they need to take to grow.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

If a person is not happy in a job choice or position does that mean the person should figure out how to change to become happy in any position, or should the person leave the job/position and find something that makes the person happy with the mindset they currently have?

Answer:

Hi and thanks for your question.

I really love this question, and the answer is a bit step-by-step.

First, the person needs to figure out why they are not happy in their current position.

Is it because they can't meet their financial goals in that position? Is there a conflict with a co-worker or team member? Are the tasks associated with the position not tasks that the person finds enjoyment in?

Depending on the answer to that first question, that person must decide if they want to stay or go. Chances are if the person is not clear why they are unhappy in their position, they will attract the same situation in their next position. Remember, every obstacle is an opportunity for growth.

If they decide to go, it's important that they change their attitude around the job, and really look at how they can do their absolute best until the next opportunity is manifested.

Some of you may remember me talking about when I first worked on the loading docks in Chicago making $20,000.00 per year. I couldn't make the money I wanted, I was miserable, and I had a horrible attitude.

As soon as I changed my attitude and did my best in that position, I became aware of a better opportunity that had been right in front of me the entire time, and that opportunity allowed me to go from $20,000.00 per year to $50,000.00 per year doing something I enjoyed A LOT more.

Changing my attitude was the KEY factor in finding the next opportunity, after all, why would the Universe give you a better opportunity when you're not doing your best with what you have now?

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Angela Durrant. You can find her on the web at www.angeladurrant.co.uk.

Question:

Whenever I am looking to move to another level, get out of my comfort zone, aim to up level my business, or grow personally. I seem to be bombarded with family crisis. Generally my partner gets ill. On this occasion as I am looking to create my first product, my partner has become seriously ill. My daughter aged 5 got sick as I was about to do my 1st teleclass. I can see a pattern as this has gone on a few times. I would suffer guilt in the past and feel torn that I wasn't making the family a priority – yet I am the sole income earner in the family currently. Other than plough on through it, how am I contributing to this? (if I am?) How do I move forward without such challenges to always overcome?

Answer:

Hi Angela and thanks for the fantastic question. I KNOW many entrepreneurs can relate to what you are experiencing.

First, it's important to recognize that you create everything in your life; all the good and all the not-so-desirable.

Your subconscious is creating this because it knows it will stop you. It's worked in the past, and therefore, the pattern continues to persist.

The key to stopping it is to NOT let it stop you.

Let me explain. The purpose of your ego is to keep you safe and exactly in the same place as you are right now. As long as a distraction works, the distraction will persist.

In order to shift out of this pattern you have to adapt a different attitude. Instead of feeling guilt and trying to figure out why you always have these obstacles, stand strong, and take a bring-it-on mindset.

Tell your ego that you see what's happening and it's not stopping you this time. That no matter what it throws at you, you will continue to move forward.

In doing this, your ego loses its power over you and the pattern will be broken. You will actually feel your energy shift as you say, “BRING IT ON!” Energetically you move from victim to incredibly empowered.

Also, keep in mind, that you will ALWAYS have challenges to overcome. Be grateful for them, as they are the catalysts of your growth!

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Martha Brown.

Question:

Hi David,
I am working my day job while I'm building my business. When you got started, how did you structure your time so there is balance among self, family, day job, and building a business?

Answer:

Hi Martha and thanks for your question.

In order for me to properly address this question, I have to bring in the Law of Sacrifice.

The Law of Sacrifice states that you have to let go of something of a lower nature to allow space for something of a higher nature to take it's place.

Let me explain… generally when you're growing, you have to go out of balance to regain balance.

You go out of balance because something has to be sacrificed in order to achieve your goal.

You can't grow your business without giving it the proper amount of attention and time, which means that attention and time has to be sacrificed in the areas of family, job or self. After all, there are only 24 hours in a day.

Once your business is established, you regain balance because you no longer need to split attention between building your business and your job. This allows more time for family and self.

While you're going through a transition, it's essential to create VERY strong boundaries around how you are going to divide your time. Let me give you an example. If you know that you're going t need to take time from your family to build your business in the evenings, you need to be very upfront with your family about your decision. Let them know that while you are working on your business in the evenings, you can not be disturbed, however, when you are spending time with them, they will have your 100% undivided attention.

The truth is there is nothing unhealthy about being out of balance for short periods of time, in fact it's required if you are ever going to grow.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

Hi David,
You've mentioned the law, “If you have a strong enough desire for something, the money MUST be there.” Please say more about how this works. For instance, if I SHOULD manifest enough money to pay off debt, does this mean that I don't DESIRE it enough to manifest the money because it's more of a “should.” Or, in another case, if I really, really desire the $12,000 diamond necklace I saw in a window yesterday, am I likely to manifest the money. And if there is a conflict, as in a “should” and a “desire,” how do I resolve the conflict and do both.
P.S. Love your work.

Answer:

Thanks for this great question!

Most people aren't excited about paying debt, but that doesn't mean the money isn't there. I recommend paying off your debt AND buying the $12,000.00 necklace.

Your goals should allow you to accomplish ANYTHING you want, and if paying off your debt and purchasing a diamond necklace is what you want, that's the goal you should be setting.

However, you don't need to focus on paying all your debt at once. There's nothing wrong with paying it off in increments. You don't want to make paying off that debt a hardship for yourself, or you'll come to resent it, and that opens up a new problem. Make sure you don't sacrifice everything to pay it off.

The only flip side to your “desire and should” question has to do with shame.

If you have shame around your debt, if you're embarrassed by it, or try to hide it, you will have a difficult time manifesting the money needed to pay it off.

Why?

Because how you do anything is how you do everything, and if you're experiencing shame, it will prevent you from doing the things necessary to manifest the money.

So if you can't see that debt is simply a tool and be grateful for it and truly appreciate what it's provided to you, you may want to take a long hard look as to how you actually feel about the debt.

Once you drop the shame and negative feelings around it, you'll be surprised how much easier it will be to manifest the money to pay it off.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Bernadette.

Question:

Hi David,
This person in my life sees the negative in every situation and people. If he does say something good or nice about people he ends it with a negative. How do you handle a situation like this?

Answer:

Hi Bernadette!

I think it's important to understand that you don't have to “handle” the situation.

I think a better question to ask yourself is, “Why am I choosing to have this negative person in my life?“

There are 2 things we need to understand.

1) This person has every right to be negative and judgmental, and it's not anyone else's responsibility or right to change him/her.

2) When you're around someone who is negative it is very hard for you to consciously reject their thoughts and feelings, and pretty soon you may find yourself uttering those same negative words. You are influenced by the people around you whether you want to admit it or not.

My mentor refused to spend time with people who are negative and lack-minded, because he knew they had the ability to change his thinking without him even realizing it, and I feel the same way.

So are you choosing to spend time with this person in hopes of changing them?

Or

Are you afraid to remove yourself from this negative person's life?

Get very honest with yourself…

It all boils down to making a decision based upon what's in your best interest understanding that everyone else has the right to think, live and believe whatever they choose.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Eric Johnson. You can find him on the web at http://www.divorceutah.com/

Question:

Hi David,
Assuming it is wrong to charge a man dying of thirst $100 for a glass of water and wrong to deny a starving man food, particularly if I have more than enough, how do I justify selling a service that people of all income levels need, but which most people truly cannot afford at the rates I charge because the rates clearly exceed the average person's ability to pay? I am a divorce attorney.

Answer:

Hi Eric!

I know a lot of coaches and business consultants that struggle with this same concept.

First of all, I don't quite think your comparison makes a whole lot of sense. Charging a dying man $100.00 for a glass of water doesn't really compare with charging attorney's fees.

Here's the deal…it's not your responsibility to save the world. If it were, you'd be the only divorce attorney in the world.

The truth is that you're looking at this all wrong.

The LAW states that if someone has a strong enough desire for something, the money MUST be there. What you're talking about is no different.

And your responsibility is to yourself only (and any dependent children of course).

Here's how I suggest you look at your fees.

Your fees MUST be set on your personal financial goals AND the value of the service that you offer. The value of what you offer must exceed the fees that you're charging.

The people who have the ability or willingness to pay you, WILL. And those that do not will find someone else to help them.

It's a win-win situation. You get to work with the people who you really enjoy working with, and people who aren't willing to pay your fees will pay someone else to work with them.

More life to all.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Kim Peterson. You can find her on the web at http://commonsensehealth.org/

Question:

Hi David,
I am passionate about helping people take their lives to the next level by changing paradigms about Health, Wellness & Success. I have spent the past two years building a following (500 group members, 2,100 + FB fans, & close to 11,000 Twitter followers), credibility and community…what I have not been doing is generating the financial reward I'd hoped. I am still having a challenge with what the actual business model is.
I love to help, generate a buzz and get people pumped but I need help with how that turns into cash. Please help!

Answer:

Hi Kim!

I understand why you're having problems with a business model…you're not clear on your target market.

After looking at your website, it's clear that you're passionate about health and wellness, but it's NOT clear what exactly you do.

Your blog is great. It's full of really helpful information about recipes, health and tips. It seems to me that it speaks to anyone who is interested in improving their health.

However, when I clicked your “How Can We Help” tab, the services you describe speak directly to the fellow health practitioner. You wrote about your passion and ability to help them build their business.

To me, this is really confusing.

Ask yourself, who you most enjoy working with. Do you like helping individuals improve their own health, or do you like helping other wellness professionals build their business?

Once you've made that decision, dig even deeper.

Who is this ideal client EXACTLY? Describe them in as much detail as if they were standing in front of you telling you all about themselves.

Then get very clear on what “symptoms” are showing up in this person's life or business.

This will lead you in creating a program or package that can help them and be of great service to them.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.