Tag: toxic relationships

Hi, and thanks for this very interesting question.

The truth is that we attract to us who we are being.

Start with yourself. If you love yourself, you will attract others who love themselves or who are in the process of learning to love themselves.

You see you are the center of your Universe. You attract people to you who will be a mirror for you.

Let me explain.

If you find that you’ve attracted a person into your life that has low self-esteem and it triggers you, it means that you have low self-esteem as well. That person is in your life so you can become aware of your next area of growth.

Remember, anything that upsets you about someone else in your life is about you and not them.

If you start with learning to love yourself, you will accept people for who they are without needing anything from them, or you’ll easily be able to let relationships go that no longer serve you.

I think Don Miguel Ruiz sums it up pretty well in his book, The Four Agreements, when he says that what people think of you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

The reverse must then also be true. What you think of other people has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you.

If you want to attract people into your life that love themselves, you must love yourself first.

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Hi!

I think it’s important to understand that you don’t have to “handle” the situation.

I think a better question to ask is, “Why am I choosing to have this negative person in my life?”

1) This person has every right to be negative and judgmental, and it’s not anyone else’s responsibility or right to change him/her.

2) When you’re around someone who is negative, it is very hard for to consciously reject their thoughts and feelings, and pretty soon you may find yourself uttering those same negative words. You are influenced by the people around you whether you want to admit it or not.

My mentor, Bob Proctor, refused to spend time with people who are negative and lack-minded, because he knew they had the ability to change his thinking without him even realizing it, and I feel the same way.

So are you choosing to spend time with this person in hopes of changing them?

Or

Are you afraid to remove yourself from this negative person’s life?

Get very honest with yourself…

It all boils down to making a decision based upon what’s in your best interest with the understanding that everyone else has the right to think, live and believe whatever they choose.

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Hi, Margaret, and thanks for the great question.

Last month I answered this same question during one of my Mindset for Maximum Prosperity Intensives, so let me ask you the same question I asked one of my attendees.

How much toxicity would you allow in your home?

Would you allow just a little bit of lead paint?

Just a little bit of arsenic?

I think not.

So why would you allow it in to your personal relationships?

The answer: YOU ARE ATTACHED.

Ask yourself: What are you getting from the relationship?

And then see what’s actually going on here.

My advice would be to set her free.

Otherwise you’ll find yourself either trying to change her (which is not your right or responsibility), or you will continue to take on her toxic energy and/or beliefs.

It’s possible that this relationship was meant to be for a season rather than a lifetime.

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

David, here is my question…

How I improve my relationship with my grown rebellious children who I love so much?

Thank you,
Meena

Hi Meena.

David, I am really struggling to find some kind of balance between business and personal. I’m building my business and my boyfriend keeps telling me that I’m working too hard. He’s constantly asking me to quit working and pay attention to him.

I’m really torn between doing everything I can to build a successful business and doing everything to build a successful relationship. Is there a balance, and if there is, how can I find it?

Thanks!

Thank you for asking this important question. Finding balance can often feel like a high-wire act! Personal relationships can impact your business and vice versa, especially if a relationship is not founded on complimentary or mutually shared values.

It sounds like you and your boyfriend don’t value the same things. This in turn can create a conflict rather than a balance issue.