This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

I find it hard to know exactly where I am in both my personal life and in business. I’m not sure how to set a goal that I can reach (that’s not wishful thinking). I don’t really know what I want.  

What questions can I ask myself to figure this out? Also, how can I be sure I’ll hit the goal? 

Hold on a second. That’s not true. You DO know what you want. You’re just not aware of it yet. 

If you continue to say, “I don’t know,” that’s a command to your brain to stop thinking. 

Don’t think of it as a goal you can reach. Think about it more from the perspective of, what do you really want? 

Ask your higher self, “What do I want? Show me what’s going to excite me. Show me why I’m here.” 

If you keep asking this question, the answer will come up. 

Don’t rush it. Don’t push it.  

Stop saying, “I don’t know,” because it’s in there. It’s in every person. All life has a purpose inside of it. 

Your higher self will communicate it to you, if you’ll consistently ask it to. 

Set a goal for something you seriously want, which you can work on over the next 90 days to achieve. It’s not about whether you reach the goal—it’s about whether you’re willing to work on it for the next 90 days. 

I have no way of knowing whether you can hit a goal in 90 days. Neither do you, if it’s something you haven't done before. 

The bigger question is…will you commit to doing it for 90 days?

Because it’s in the commitment that you’ll actually hit it in the timeframe you set. 

Few people hit a goal the first time around, especially a new goal on a date they’ve set. There’s no way to know whether they’ll reach the goal by that date. It’s just like an estimation. 

In the 90-day period, we’re looking to develop two things:

1. Being our word, so that we consistently do the work for 90 days in a row.
2. Change the paradigm inside of ourself, so that we can see the opportunity of what we want.

Success is literally about programming yourself to be able to see the opportunity. You have to consistently do that. 

You’re an adult, so you have to change a pattern of what you see in life. A child only has to make up their mind what they want. An adult has to change their mind. There’s no prior imprint in the child’s mind. 

For example, I’m 55. If I want to change something now that I’ve been dealing with my whole life—I have to realize I’ve had an imprint of that for 55 years. I need to work on changing that for a considerable amount of time, so that my eyes and intellect will see it as an opportunity in my life. Otherwise, I’m blind to it. 

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

I always thought I was a confident person in terms of my abilities and my intelligence. After doing your exercise, it became clear that maybe on a subconscious level, I don’t think I’m important or intelligent—and I’m always seeking external validation from others. I get pissed off when someone doesn’t acknowledge my intelligence.

When I was younger, my family always told me I was bright and intelligent. But some kids at school told me I wasn’t smart.

How do I transform my thinking and self-belief so that I believe I am important?

Great question.

The first thing I’d ask is…whose voice is that in your head that tells you you’re not intelligent or important?

Because it’s not yours.

Where did you hear that as a child?

Usually the voice comes from a parent or someone who raised you. And it can cause us to form beliefs that doesn’t serve us later in life.

If, in fact, it was the other kids at school who insinuated that you’re not intelligent, then ask yourself this question….

“What did I want from them that I didn’t get, that caused this to be so painful for me?”

I don’t think it’s necessarily about the intelligence piece. It’s probably more like acceptance, love, or something. Maybe you wanted them to like you.

See if you can clearly identify what that is.

Once you’re aware of this, look at all the areas of your life where you’ve been trying to get this from other people.

How is it holding you back?

A need to be liked, loved, or accepted can hold you back from doing the things you need to do to reach your goals and move forward.

For example, if you’re in business and you have a need to be liked, admired, or respected by the “cool kids” (or whatever it is for you), you might not say the things you need to say during sales conversations in order to close the sale.

Whatever you’re trying to get from other people, flip it around—how can you give that to yourself, so that you don’t need it from others?

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

My question is, how far do you invest in your business before you’re getting the return?—whether it’s doing a coaching program like yours, or even with the people that you hire?

All the way.

Invest all the way, with everything. Because if you do it half-assed, you won’t get there.

Let me just be a hundred percent transparent. When first I started down the road of working with my mentor, it was a multi six-figure investment. I was working at a job. I did not have my own business. I had to take out another mortgage on my house to pay for it. I maxed out all my credit cards.

The deal I made with my mentor was…I had to go to every event he taught. I had to pay my own way. Back then, that meant riding in the back of the car (hiring a limo driver) or riding in the front of the plane (flying first class).

I had to pay my own way for everything. I wasn’t making any more money at the time. All I was doing was learning. It was an investment in my own education.

When I started my business, it was “everything in at once.” It didn’t matter what I was doing. If I had to hire somebody, or pay for something for myself—every resource went into making this thing work.

Let me say this again: If you do it half-assed, you won’t get there.

Now, I need everybody to understand this. And I say this with total respect. You can only play this way if you’re willing to step up and earn the money. If you’re not willing to make the sales, if you’re not willing to be responsible to earn the money, then don’t do it. Because you’ll get yourself into a world of trouble.

I’m always willing to earn the money that I spend. As a matter of fact, I love to earn money. I love to sell. It’s in our core essence of who we are. It’s part of how we help people. And it’s exciting. It’s a tremendous amount of fun.

Part of this is about knowing who you are, and making a decision that this is the change you’re going to make for your life. It’s one of the greatest changes you can make, because once you break through it, you’ll never run around saying, “Oh, my God, I don’t have any money.” Or, “How am I going to hire somebody?”

Just do it, figure it out, and make it happen.

Invest in your business all the way as long as you’re willing to earn the money you need!.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

How do you deflect negative energy around you? And more specifically, how do you deflect it when it’s being directed at you?

I’m really sensitive to other people’s energy. I’m pretty good at ignoring it, but the more I grow, the more it comes at me.

First of all, Happy New Year to all my readers! I wish everyone reading this an incredible 2022.

As far as your question…I don’t really care for the word ‘deflect.’ Here’s why.

In order for something to bother you, you have to agree with it. Just don’t agree with it. Because the moment you agree with it, you energetically align yourself with it in some way.

Many people have negative ideas or negative energy…or they’re going through something rough. You don’t have to agree with it as part of your experience. It’s not about deflecting it. It’s about saying, “I’m not taking it in as part of my experience.”

Negative energy is always coming at you in the same amount. It’s just that now you’re more aware of it.

My question to you is—where is the negative energy coming from? If it’s coming from your inner circle, that’s definitely something you can do something about. If it’s life in general—if it’s the energy in the universe, or what’s going on in the world right now—then I completely understand.

You can’t control a lot of that.

I’m very empathic. With everything that’s going on in the world, if I open myself up too much, it affects me terribly. That’s not a good thing. But I’ve really trained myself to look at everything as an opportunity for me and the people I work with. I try not to judge it, but to look at it from a perspective of, “How does this fit into my personal mission in life?”

I look at it from the perspective of, “This is a period of growth and transition for humanity. From a positive aspect, what is my role supposed to be in this area?”

But if the negative energy is coming from your inner circle, that’s something completely different.

You have to do something about that.

If it’s a toxic relationship, you either have to end the relationship, or create a boundary. But there’s a rule with boundaries. You can’t create a boundary with someone who won’t respect it. Because if they won’t respect it—then what the hell is the use of setting the boundary?

In that case, you have to end the relationship, because you can’t afford to have that kind of toxicity affecting your life.

Everybody can have a bad moment, and you can agree on what needs to happen to change that or to have a healthy relationship. But when somebody isn’t willing to participate in that growth, then you have to take control. You have to say, “I can't have this in my life. I won’t do it.”

Unless it’s a child, the idea is that if it doesn’t change, you’ve got to leave or have that person leave.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

The floodgates have opened. Everybody I’ve ever spoken to has now decided they want to work with me. Business is great. I’m excited. It’s been quite the year.

However, there’s been a big shift—suddenly part of my team is leaving. I don’t fully trust that this success will continue. I have so much work on my plate, it’s getting messy. I need to get systems in place to be able to handle it all.

Part of me wants to back off and say, “This is too much.” But I asked for it. So what should my attitude be around this? Is this where I need to push through to get to the other side?

No, this is where you need to ask for help.

This isn’t a question of, “What do I need to do?” It’s a ‘who’ question. Who do you need to ask for help? Who do you need to hire? Who can help you handle the increased work load without compromising quality?

When we continue to push through and be bogged down with work, that’s a middle-class mindset. The idea is that you expand. In order to expand, you have to hire the right people to take your business to the next level.

Many entrepreneurs think, “Oh, I can’t afford to expand right now.” You can’t afford NOT to expand.

If you’re not growing (expanding), you’re dying.

Always hire in the direction you’re going. The question is, who do you need to help you, so that you’re not overwhelmed and you can keep doing the thing you’re brilliant at?

Regarding some of your team members leaving…this is a normal part of being in business. It’s happening. Don’t victimize around your previous team members leaving. Don’t create a disempowering story around it in your mind.

Right now you need to be very open in your mindset, to allow the new people whom you need to hire to show up. Tell yourself those individuals will be even better. They’ll get even more work done. They’ll contribute even more to the growth of your business.

Make the decision that you’re going to bring these people in…and move forward.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

I seem to be programmed with a lot of negative faith. Many times in my life, when I was very qualified to do something and people were rooting for me, I’d choke at the last minute. It didn’t matter if it was scoring a goal or auditioning. I’d rehearse and really know all my lines or be good at the sport I was playing. Yet when it came to crunch time, I would totally choke over and over again.

It made me feel so destroyed and broken down—because I knew what I was doing, yet I would totally cave emotionally. How do I develop a more positive faith?

I don’t know that it’s an issue of having a negative faith. Usually, when we talk about negative faith, we’re thinking about fear or an expectation of something consistently going wrong.

When you’re giving too much energy to the outcome of something, that’s called hyper attention. You’re too attached to that outcome from the negative perspective of not wanting it to go wrong. Most people actually have an issue with that.

This is where the idea of “Let go and let God” comes in. You prepare, you do your best—then you let it go and just step into letting it happen.

It’s not about controlling every aspect of what happens. You have to turn it over to your higher consciousness and allow it to operate in that situation. That’s all you have to do.

You can tell yourself, “I’ve prepared as best as I can. I truly did my best in preparing or practicing. And now I’m turning it over to God or the universe.”

When you’re scared to death that you’re not going to get the outcome you’re looking for, you over-prepare or hyper prepare. That causes fear, doubt, and anxiety to invade your mind, which has a negative effect on your ability to perform.

Although it looks positive, it’s actually coming from fear. It’s coming from insecurity. You end up getting the thing you’re attached to the most, which is the insecurity.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

When you talk about “turning your yearly income into a monthly income,” my mind automatically wants to say, “Yeah right. How? Show me the way. Tell me exactly what you did and I’ll repeat the steps.” I’ve heard you say that asking “How?” is automatically asking the wrong question—and that we should be thinking in a different direction. Do I need to look at this from another angle instead of asking “How”?

It’s a decision. That’s all it is—a decision that you will.

Asking “how” before you’ve made the decision is a way to control. If you set a goal, or you hear me inspire you to do something really cool, and you go, “Yeah, sure, show me how”—that’s a way to control.

That question is coming from a place of not believing it’s possible to begin with. So you won’t do what you actually have to do to hit the goal.

The idea is, if you’re inspired to do something, you would say:

“I’m going to do it. I’m making a decision to do it. I don’t need to know how—I just need to make the decision that I’m going to do it.” Then set a date by which you’ll complete that thing.

In that moment, everything you need to do begins to show up, because you’ve done something that is your greatest power—making a decision. That gets you in line with the universe, and looking for the things you need to do next to hit the goal.

Many people will make the decision, but then go backwards and “un-decide”… because something shows up that makes them waiver. That’s why they go back and forth. They haven’t really made the decision.

You can’t un-decide.

It all goes back to the question, “Are you willing?” It’s a huge question, because you don’t know what you’re saying yes to. You might have to do things you’re uncomfortable with. Until you make the decision, you don’t know what’s blocking you from your success.

It becomes apparent as you start to go down that journey. Then it becomes a question of, “Am I willing to sacrifice something of a lower nature to gain something of a higher nature?”

You’ll hit a point where the biggest thing you’re attached to shows up. It’s usually the thing that makes or breaks people. They’re either willing to let go of the thing they’re attached to the most that’s keeping them stuck—or they’re NOT willing to.

This is where you’ll see a person instantly turn into a victim or start blaming.

Whatever shows up for them really is the crux of what they’re going to have to accept in order to step into their greatness.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

For the past couple days, I’ve been pretending that I had a Cosby life (like in the good days of the Cosby Show). I was pretending my parents were educated professionals who were encouraging, loving, and supportive. I noticed that while I was pretending this was my backstory, I felt more confident. Is changing your belief about yourself really that simple?

Yes, it’s that simple.

The reason you feel more confident is because your subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. The subconscious is the emotional mind. It can’t determine whether the image you’re giving to it is real or pretend.

When you build an image in your mind, and you’re emotionally attaching to it in that moment, you start manifesting that image in the form of the emotional healing you’d experience if you actually did it.

Whether it’s real or something you’re making up—your subconscious mind can’t tell the difference.

It operates as if it was real.

When you’re doing this, you’re creating parallel emotions, as if it was real and as if you’re experiencing it in your body.

If you keep doing this through constant space repetition, you’ll transform everything in your life, so that it matches that belief system.

It doesn’t matter what you’re doing this with—the hardest part is being consistent. Conceptually, it’s easy to understand. You could explain this to a sixth grader and they’d get it.

Breaking the old patterns consistently is the hard part.

In the Bible, Christ talks about being like a child, because a child doesn’t doubt anything. Whatever you tell them, they automatically believe it. They’ll go into character around that belief. He says the kingdom of heaven belongs to the children.

He was basically saying it’s as easy as being like a child. Just use your imagination to build a new image.

All the other crap people told you that you’re operating with is what makes it difficult.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

I recently got divorced, and I feel like my mom is rejecting me by not telling her family about it. I confronted her about this and got triggered, because she said if I ever meet someone, I never have to tell anybody I’m divorced.

I feel like she’s denying my divorce, and therefore, she’s rejecting me and my decision too. I don’t want her to keep running away from it— I want her to accept that what’s happened in my life is real.

How can I let go of this heaviness in my chest when I have a conflict with someone? How can I grow from this?

I think you need to ask yourself a couple questions that will allow you to grow from this:

What are you really trying to get from your mother?

You say you want her to accept what has happened in your life. Ask yourself why? Why do you want her to accept it?

Here’s the problem…

There’s nothing you can do to make someone accept you or reject you. And it’s not your responsibility as to whether they accept you or reject you.

The key here is that she needs to play the role she’s playing in order for YOU to grow in the area that you need to grow in. If you need to grow into self-acceptance and your mother changes overnight, then you don’t need to do that anymore, because you’re going to get your acceptance from her.

The universe is sending you a very beautiful gift disguised as your mom—and that is, to accept yourself. You’re a beautiful, wonderful, amazing person just the way you are.

Accept yourself.

One way you can do this is to sit down with a piece of paper and pen, and write down all the desires you have for yourself or for anything else you’re rejecting in your life.

You’ll know you’re rejecting it if you’re not doing it. If you’re not doing anything to bring each of your desires into your life, then you’re rejecting them.

You can also ask yourself: What am I tolerating in my life right now that’s a demonstration of self-abuse? In other words, what are you allowing into your life that’s a form of not loving yourself or being toxic with yourself?

Once you have that list, go down each item and work on it…and keep working on them.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

I’ve always wanted spirituality in my life. I’ve had exposure to some spiritual ideas, but I don’t fully understand it. In all of your studies, have you formed an opinion about what happens when we die? Have you read any books that “clicked” around this idea for you?

Yes, I have an opinion. First, let me ask: why are you asking this question? Understanding why you’re asking will determine what answers you’re looking for.

Do you want the truth? Or do you want a “feel-good” story? If you want to know the truth, you’ll find it. If you want something else—a resurrection story, a Santa Claus story, a bunny story—you’ll find those, because they’re all there.

What’s interesting is that we have the ability to ask this question. If we can ask, then we can also find the answer.

I believe that before we were born, our energy was already here. It was present, and we had a purpose before we came into this body. (What we were doing, or in what form that energy was in—I don’t know.)

When we’re born, we come into this body as a form of energy. When we die, we move out of this body, but the energy never goes away. Energy is neither created or destroyed; it just is.

It transforms from one thing to another.

My opinion is that when you die, you transform to the next stage of your growth in your journey of being energy and a soul. What that looks like, I can’t tell you.

I work with some very credible people who’d say, “What you do and what you accumulate doesn’t matter. What you learn, who you become, and the awareness you gain in this lifetime is what matters—all of that goes with you forever onto your next journey. Based on everything we currently know, I believe that’s 100% true.

What helped me form this opinion was asking, “What’s the starting point for a human being?” For most people, the starting point is that they’re a victim. Almost everyone is given a victim story from the moment they’re born. If that’s true…then what? Where do you go from there?

If I come into life believing I’m a victim, that hurts everyone around me, because I’ll spread my victim belief to everyone else. The shadow side of being a victim is being a perpetrator. So I keep that cycle going. That cycle does not fit God’s modus operandi—which is “more life.”

Coming into life as a victim does not fit the universal laws.

It became apparent to me that before we came into this body, we must have chosen to do so. Believing we chose to come here—and that we’re responsible for our life—sets everyone free. It fits the universal laws.

I’d recommend reading the Conversations With God trilogy. Try to be completely open to it as you read it. If you don’t want to know the truth, you’ll be shut off to anything that comes in. It will become the perfect reason NOT to find the truth.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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