Found an extra $35K!
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
I have listened to all of your videos, webinars and bonus material for the Art of Success 2 promo and Blind Spot Breakthrough and I am blown away. You have allowed me to reveal exactly what is blocking me – with this awareness I found an extra $35,000 in annual income that I was sitting on. But now that I have activated that income I am feeling the pull of my psycho-cybernetic setting – I can't stop myself from breaking down and sabotaging myself! I am so worried and scared that I am going to ruin all the new income I just found – how can I stop it?
First of all, CONGRATS on the new awareness that helped you find an extra $35,000.00 in income. That's fantastic, and something I enjoy watching my private clients discover for themselves as well.
The key thing to remember is that you CAN stop yourself from breaking down and sabotaging yourself. Immediately stop saying that you can't.
The first step is to become aware of what beliefs are causing the worry.
Ask yourself why you are feeling worried and scared. From that answer, keep asking questions until you feel like you've hit the root issue. This will shine the light on the belief that's allowing fear, worry and doubt to creep in.
Let the worst-case scenario play out.
Once a light is shined on the fear, you can respond to it.
For example, if you discover that your worry is coming from a place of what other people will think of you if you ruin everything, you can now address that fear for what it is.
If you shine the light on it and realize that your fear is coming from a place of wanting love and acceptance from other people, you can bring in the truth to remind yourself that what people think of you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
This awareness helps neutralize the worry, because you can see it for what it is and understand your next area of growth. In the above instance, it would be strengthening your self-esteem so that you stop fearing judgment from others.
Remember, Spirit does not speak to you through fear. If you experience it you know it's from your ego.
I made a lot of mistakes, now what?
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
Hi David,
My business has gone through a lot of changes this year – mostly because of mistakes that I made partnering with the wrong people. I have made the changes to get out of that situation, and since then I have been struggling to figure out what I really want. I believe I want passive income, and to help business owners succeed using my knowledge of business management best practices, but not sure how to change the way things are now to achieve that.
I just started reading your book, and finding it helpful. I would love your feedback.
The first question was about figuring out what you want.
Many people who I have had the pleasure of teaching over the years, have struggled with figuring out what they want. Part of the problem is that as a child, you were probably taught that you couldn't have what you wanted. Being told this over and over again, shut down your capacity to dream or even fantasize about what you want.
Here's a sure fire way to help you.
Sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and make a list of ALL the things you are tolerating in your life. By ALL I mean everything in your personal life AND your business life. Write down the smallest little annoyances, and also the really big things.
Once your list is complete, go to work on changing those things.
Pretty soon, you'll realize that you are beginning to see clearly what you want.
Your second question was about not knowing how to change to achieve what you want.
Change always starts with a decision.
This can be tricky.
If you are deciding what you want based on the perceived “problems” of the change that will need to be made, you will never make a decision.
Start with your list of tolerations.
Then decide what you want.
Finally, begin taking action toward that change.
And always remember, change is messy.
If it were easy, everyone would be wealthy.
In the end, it is those who are willing to change, adapt and grow that achieve the most success in life.
PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.
Are you a victim of failure?
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
Hi David!
My question is short and sweet. How do I turn my failures into success very quickly?
Fantastic question!
The key ingredient in turning a failure into a success is to not see “failure”.
Let me explain.
Failure is a judgment placed on a result.
The problem lies with how we FEEL about failure.
When we fail, we attach meaning to that failure and it triggers our core belief about ourselves. We say things in our mind like, “I'm not smart enough, I'm never going to succeed, I can't believe this isn't working, what's wrong with me?”
And this is how we get pulled into the emotions of our subconscious programming, and we get stuck in failure.
The truth is that failure is nothing more than a result. And the purpose of that result is our own growth.
When we do not get a result that we like, we need to look at that result through the eyes of a learner and ask ourselves questions to help us understand why we did not get the result we wants.
A couple great questions to ask are:
What don't I understand about this?
Why am I choosing to experience this?
How is this result serving me?
Who do I need to be to get a different result?
The most successful people in the world have experienced more failure than success.
The difference is in their ability to not take the failures personally and to respond to them rather than being a victim of them.
“Just Believe”,®
PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Lifeis a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.AskDavidNeagle.com to participate.
Is wanting what I want a bad thing?
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
Question:
Hi David,
Some “experts” talk about desire negatively. They say that a person must let go of the desire because the desire controls them as long as they are attached to it. I think there is a middle ground; having a desire without being attached to it. Could you expand on this? What is the best way to keep the proper perspective? I like the idea of focus vs. goals because it feels like the attachment is reduced.
Answer:
Hello and thanks for this question!
I'm not sure what experts you're referring to in your question, but if we look to truth, we can find the answer to your question.
Desire is necessary.
It drives our purpose.
It pulls us to become who we are.
It helps us see when and where we need to make changes in our life.
And most importantly desire is a KEY ingredient in how we create the world around us.
Desire is not evil, but it can be dysfunctional.
The true test for all of us to keep ourselves in check and make sure that our desire is coming from a place of abundance and more life to all is to use the 4 Questions.
I teach the 4 Questions in ALL of my seminars and workshops and to all my clients.
They are a series of questions that help us determine if we desire something or if we are making a dysfunctional decision.
The questions apply to every decision you make and every desire you have.
Question 1: Is this something you want to be, do or have? (You should get a yes to this question)
Question 2: Is being, doing or having this going to take you closer to your goal? (You should get a yes to this question?)
Question 3: Is being, doing or having this in alignment with Universal Law (more life to all)? (You should get a yes to this question)
Question 4: Does being, doing or having this take away the rights of others or does it take away someone's right to choose? (You should get a no to this question)
Use these questions daily to help you stay focused and on a clear path to your goals.
Remember: Desire is the unexpressed possibility within you, seeking expression outside of you.
To deny desire would be to deny your true self.
“Just Believe”,®
PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.
PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.
Can I trust my own family?
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Aubrey Raiford.
Question:
Hi David,
I'm trying to repair damage with a family member. I have forgiven them and moved past the hurt, but I don't trust them. Is this negative? Is this holding me back from moving forward?
Answer:
Hi Aubrey!
People must earn your trust.
It is not something that you give freely.
Whether we are talking about your family, friends, or random people in your neighborhood, to trust people blindly and implicitly is never a good decision, especially if they've shown you that they cannot be trusted.
If someone has not earned your trust, or has broken your trust in the past, you can love them for who they are, but ultimately you have to make a decision about whether or not you want to spend time with them and share your life with them.
The only way your family can hold you back is if you make decisions based on what they think, rather than what you want.
If you find yourself caring more about what someone else thinks than what you think, you are holding yourself back.
Lastly, I want you to understand that if someone has broken your trust, chances are you've done the same thing to someone else and this situation is simply a mirror for you.
Remember you attract everything in your life from a place of who you are being, and to not take responsibility for part of the situation will only keep it alive and painful.
If you can see the truth in what happened, it will set you free.
“Just Believe”,®
PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.
PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.
What if your life depended on it?
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
Question:
Hi David,
I am a business owner and I have not been making the calls I know very well how to do, and I know I should be making. How do you approach this conversation, and really help people get back to life? I have basically stopped making sales prospecting calls completely. The income is now way below my needs. I am stuck. How would you suggest I get back to being really productive again quickly and properly? I feel so dumb for allowing this to happen. I have had many big wins, some pretty high highs, but this has been worst decade of my life. Wondering if you have a thought you can share.
Answer:
Hi and thanks for your question.
The problem is not with your unwillingness to make sales calls. The problem lies with your sense of urgency to make those calls.
Let me explain.
Right now, it's serving you to not pick up the phone and do what you need to do.
Be honest, how does it benefit you to be in the situation you are in?
At first your conscious mind will tell you that I'm crazy, and of course it's not benefitting you to be “stuck”. But take some time and really think about what would happen, both good and bad, if you were to start picking up that phone and doing what you know you need to do.
You are creating this, and you are creating it because somewhere in your subconscious, you WANT to be stuck.
Whenever you doubt that, ask yourself this question, “If my child's life depended on me picking up the phone and making a sale, would I do it?”
If your answer is yes, then you know that you don't want your success bad enough to be willing to do what it takes.
You asked how would I suggest that you get back to being productive again.
I would suggest that you make a decision about what you want. The decision always comes first.
And I have a feeling that there is a decision in your life that you are resisting making and once you make that decision, your sense of urgency will increase and you'll pick up the phone and make the calls that are necessary for your success.
“Just Believe”,®
PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.
PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.
I stepped forward & the bomb went off!
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Donna Romero. You can find her on the web at www.fortodaystimes.com
Question:
David, I am really hoping you can make sense of this. Over the past 1 1/2 years I have been one of those people who worked to make everything perfect.
I was just recently able to feel really ready and move forward on the goals for my new business.
Ever since the day I chose to get going, things have just been happening. My mom passed away, my brand new laptop crashed and the guys doing the repairs, well it's an ugly story … The store is now spending over $1,000.00 to try and retrieve information I have lost.
David, I know this means something. I am absolutely not going to let this hold me back over the long run, but I just want peace back.
Help please,
Donna
Answer:
Hi Donna and thanks for your question.
I've heard hundreds of similar stories and have even had my own experiences like this when I was first staring on my own journey.
What you are experiencing is the power of your ego.
Let me explain. Your ego's purpose is to keep you “safe”. It perceives any growth as a risk.
What you are experiencing is your ego trying to distract you, scare you, and convince you to stop.
Unfortunately, many people experience this chaos and think that Spirit is trying to tell them that moving forward is not a good idea.
They are dead wrong.
Spirit NEVER speaks to you through fear.
The only way to get control of the chaos is to stand up to your ego. This means that you need to move from being a victim of these circumstances to being empowered.
Yell at the top of your lungs, BRING IT ON, I AM NOT STOPPING! Take your control back.
You see, we create everything in our lives; all the good things and all the not so good things. If you allow yourself to be pulled into the emotions of the circumstances, you will create more of the same.
Shift your perspective and energy and your world will shift with you.
“Just Believe”,®
PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.
PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.
Responding to: That’s a lot of moolah objection
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Jake.
Question:
I did your Art of Success, which was awesome :), but here's where I get stuck. I HATE asking people for the money! Over the last 30 days I've done 32 discovery sessions, and none have turned into committed clients yet, despite them all being interested and highly targeted, qualified leads.
Even when I mention the programs I have, people get all excited and then they baulk at the price. I know how to convey value as I'm a copywriter and do this very successfully for others. I know what to say, but somehow when people resist the price, even though I counter what they are saying by painting a picture of how they will be stuck in the future if they carry on as they are…it's still a ‘It's a LOT of money'.
So, my immediate reaction is to give them a program brochure, and ask them to book themselves in to my diary themselves.
I just don't want to seem pushy!
What should I do?
Answer:
Fantastic question!
The true problem is that your fear of what someone is going to think of you is negatively affecting your ability to have a powerful sales conversation.
If you care more about how you are perceived than you do about helping people you won't be aware of specific questions you can ask to overcome the “It's a lot of money” objection.
If you weren't afraid of being pushy, you would have responded to “It's a lot of money.” with “Compared to what?” instead of backing off and handing out your brochure.
You see, “It's a lot of money.” is a conditioned response people use when faced with a decision that leads to their own growth. So you then have to ask them another question to see what the true objection is.
If you were to ask, “Compared to what?” you would be able to see how they are making their decision and allow you to redirect the conversation.
Step into being powerful and confident in your next sales conversation, and you will be amazed at the win-win conversation that will take place.
Always remember, sales is not doing something TO someone, it's doing something FOR someone.
“Just Believe”,®
PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.
PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.
If I believe our natural resources are limited, can I also believe in abundance?
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Deb Kolb.
Question:
I am passionate about conserving our precious resources, which comes from a belief that the resources on our planet are finite. Everything I hear & read points in that direction. There certainly is plenty of evidence that our resources are finite.
Can you please help me to see what I cannot see about abundance? Are our natural resources really not finite?
Answer:
Hi Deb and thanks for your question!
It is very interesting when you study the Universe because you begin to realize that some very basic truths run under everything. The Universe operates according to very exact Laws. We can only perceive our world to the degree that we are aware of these Laws thus the Laws never change, only our awareness of them.
We are programmed and guided through our life by our five senses; we see, hear, smell, taste and touch. In a very real way we become handicapped by these senses because it becomes difficult for us to perceive and believe beyond what our senses tell us is true or real.
Because we are so lead by our physical senses we tend to form the opinion that anything beyond the physical isn't substantial enough to be considered real or realistic. Only the physical that can be weighed and measured is what is most important to be considered when evaluating life, the resources we need to survive and thrive as a planet and species.
What we greatly tend to misunderstand is that everything is in a constant state of motion for the single purpose of life, and that nothing exists in our Universe outside that premise. This is the concept that I begin all my teachings from. Everything is for MORE LIFE.
This means that the Universe is abundant in knowledge and everything that is required for MORE LIFE to be possible. By the Law of MORE LIFE it cannot contradict itself. You cannot have two opposing truths in the Universe because they would cancel each other out and everything would cease to exist.
We have developed the belief, through time and lack of understanding of these great Laws, that we live in a limited Universe. It's difficult to perceive beyond what our senses tell us is true; however science will tell you that everything we perceive through our senses is only limited by the sense itself and not the thing we are perceiving.
If you come from a finite belief then that is what your experience of the world will be, which is very similar to a lack mindset. If you believe in lack and worry about lack, your experience will mirror that to you.
If you come from an infinite belief then that is what your experience of the world will be. This again is very similar to a belief in abundance. If you see abundance everywhere and know that you are not limited, your experience will mirror that to you in the same way and your life will be abundant.
There can't be two opposing truths.
I keep giving my expertise away for nothing!
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Erin.
Question:
Hi David,
Thank you for your guidance! I am a nutrition coach and also an elementary school teacher. I am often approached by friends/co-workers/acquaintances with questions about weight loss and management. I am passionate about my expertise and love to converse about these topics, however; when asked to provide more personal advice, I am uncertain about the best way to shift from an inquiring acquaintance to a client. Should I just outline my services and costs verbally? Email? Pamphlet? Your thoughts are much appreciated!
Answer:
Hi Erin, and thanks so much for your question!
I would like to take this moment to introduce you to your two new best friends…
THE QUESTION.
And
THE BOUNDARY.
You see part of your problem is that you're not in control of the conversations you're having with your friends/co-workers/acquaintances. You're allowing them to be in control. And the other part of the problem is that you're not setting clear boundaries about what you will and will not give away for free.
And the only way for you to regain control is to bring in the QUESTION.
I cover this in-depth in my training called Compassionate Conversion, but I'm happy to give you an abbreviated version here.
As soon as someone asks you a question, I'd like you to answer with a question. This allows you to be in control of the conversation, and positions you as an expert, rather than a friend/acquaintance/co-worker.
Example:
Co-worker: What's the fastest way to lose 10 lbs.?
You: What's your biggest frustration with losing weight?
In just the simple asking of that question, you can immediately see what they are really wanting help with, and they can see that you've got their best interests at heart. Let's continue:
Co-worker: I just can't seem to stick with eating healthy. I've tried and tried, and every time I last 2 weeks, and then end up eating Oreos.
You: I see. There are a number of reasons that can be a factor when trying to lose weight. Based upon what I know about you, I think I can help. I have a program I think could really help you kick the Oreos to the curb for good. When would you like to schedule a time to talk?
This sets a clear boundary that you're not going to solve all of their problems at no charge, and it maintains that you're in charge of the conversation.
Anyone in a “helping” profession can relate to this scenario, and the key is to use questions and boundaries to make sure that you're converting inquiries to clients.
If you'd like more (question by question) instruction on how to manage a sales conversation, go to: www.compassionateconversion.com
“Just Believe”,®
PS: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.
PPS: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.